Anger Management: What is Anger? Problems faced by Teachers,
We all experience anger at some point or
the other, babies too experience anger. Did you know
that right from the time the baby is in the womb, a baby
develops feelings of anger, so when the baby is born, he
or she is fully aware of anger, frustration etc.
What is anger?
Anger is an emotion or a feeling. It is a natural
response to displeasure or frustration. Aggression on
the other hand is a behavior manifestation of the
emotion that causes another person mental injury,
physical damage, abuse, damage to property etc. We
cannot do away with this negative feeling but we have to
learn the best ways of expressing our anger. A child
releases his or her anger in various ways like shouting,
shoving, kicking, abusing, not abiding by the rules of
the school, defying others, back answering etc. We have
to teach children the right ways to cope with anger and
aggression so that they do not harm themselves or
others. Anger can also lead to self-destruction.
1. It is important for parents and
teachers to talk about their feeling and help them to
understand what they are feeling.
2. It is important not to blame them
or make them feel bad for having these negative
feelings. It is natural to have these negative feelings.
3. They should not feel that because
they have these negative feelings you don’t love them.
Love should not be based on whether they have positive
feelings or negative.
4. Stay with the child while
he or she is working with anger. Do not Abandon him,
therefore a time –out (punishment) at the time of an
emotional out-burst is not the right way to teach a
child. Rejection will cause the child to feel more hurt
and angry which could lead to the child to feel anger
5. Help the child to express
anger in appropriate words e.g. Do not say I hate my
friend but rather use a feeling expression like “ it
makes me mad that my friend behaved like that etc. also
helps him to identify his feeling and learn that it is
the behavior that triggers something in him and not that
he hates another human being.
6. Prevent the anger from
building up. Don’t wait for the outburst; Physical
activity helps to release stress etc.
7. If someone has abused in
class etc, or punched another person, what you can do is
talk to them nicely, asking them to verbally tell each
other a feeling sentence e.g. He irritates me so I
punched him, so let both of them come to you and
verbally ask them what they felt at the time they
abused, or punched. Then tell them to take sometime off
and write down their feelings, this will help them to
vent their anger. Whenever anyone gets angry, helping
them to write what they feel helps to prevent an
8. Being a good model to the
child of how you control your own anger and expressing
it appropriately. The lessons they need to learn about
coping with anger will not be learned when the child is
punished for angry expression. He does not learn
anything about how he feels and how he should deal with
it. He still feels bad or he may learn to stay calm to
be accepted. The lessons should not be taught when the
angry outburst occurs, but as a natural part of daily
9. When you feel angry, there
is some negative feeling associated with it, like guilt,
jealousy, embarrassment, hatred etc... so it is
important to try and change the thinking style first.
try to utilize the energy in thinking why you are angry
in the first place, and then try and think what can be
done about the situation to make it better. Hence this
will help you to become calmer and think more clearly
about the problem.
10. Traditional ways of
working on anger: counting till 10, exercise, writing
ones feelings, talking to someone about it, going for a
walk, screaming out alone loudly etc
COMMON PROBLEMS FACED BY TEACHERS
1. Poor academic performance
2. Cheating/ lying
3. aggressive violent behaviors
4. frequent absentee records
5. regular complaints of physical problems
The reasons for low performance in studies are varied.
It could be because of lack of knowledge on how to
study, emphasize no last minute studying, because of
other interference like family problems, or disturbed
environment. Teachers will have to deal individually
with the child , first to try and build a general
rapport with the child, finding out his likes and
dislikes of subjects, which he finds easiest and
toughest, what he likes about school, how he studies,
his or her method, all this has to be done gradually not
in one sitting, because child may not be able to
understand so much. The teacher should explain to child
various study techniques to make their subject
interesting, making colorful charts, writing down what
they study instead of only reading etc. are few of the
The next point is very delicate, because the child is
not going to own up his misbehavior, so firstly teacher
must ask the child why did he do it, if the child
denies, then the teacher must emphasize on how cheating
and lying are bad, and if the child lies, then it
becomes difficult to trust the child, being patent and
not raising ones voice while handling the child is
important, let the child feel that you are his or her
friend, don’t jump to conclusions , let the child
explain, tell them it is wrong if they cheat but worse
if they lie and also cheat, so to be honest. giving egs.
and talking to them in a calm but stern manner is
important. don’t punish but rather explain why the child
is at fault.
In the same fashion it is important not to directly
scold the child but explain to them what they did is
wrong, also telling them that other children would not
want to talk or play with them if they fight with
others, or hit, kick etc. If they use abusive language
ask them from where did they pick up the words, be stern
and firm that they should refrain from using such
language, and if they do then be firm with your
punishment. Do not say that you will keep them after
school and don’t follow your promise, because children
will then take it easy. Ask them who hits, kicks, etc at
their house, or why did they hit, kick etc the person,
call the other person and give each one a sound warning,
but to keep aggression under control punishment ( not
harsh) is essential and should be followed.
Call the parents, ask if there is a genuine medical
reason, there could be problems at home or the child
could be staying away from school due to various reason,
make sure parents are informed if any child is absent
too often. While talking to the parents you will
understand whether there is a genuine problem or then
the parents are very lenient with their child.
Accordingly you can talk to them.
To help a child be more bold, praise the child in class,
ask the child to do simple tasks related to school and
try and gradually build his or her confidence. Sometimes
in class only few of the smart children become monitors,
or are asked by the teacher to read in class etc.. but
rather teachers should encourage everyone and not only a
selected few. I hope this information is useful to you,
if there are any specific requirements please let me
know, I have many study tips that will be useful if you
want me to send that to you , let me know.
COPING WITH DYSLEXIA
Is your child creative, artistic, outgoing and good at
sports but weak with spellings and muddles up his left
from his right? This could be a possible case of
dyslexia. Dyslexia is a reading disorder that causes
difficulties in the three basic areas of learning i.e.
reading, writing and spelling. Phonological difficulty’s
like sorting put sounds within words is a common symptom
There could be several reasons for dyslexia to appear in
children. Firstly it could be hereditary. Secondly,
research shows that it could be a result of illnesses
like common cold, throat infections during early
childhood which could cause a temporary hearing loss
(first 5 years) leading to glue ear or conductive
hearing loss. Thirdly, dyslexia is found in the families
that have a history of left-handedness. But this does
not mean that a left-handed child will be dyslexic or a
dyslexic parent will automatically have a dyslexic
child. More scientific research has been done on the
brain- the magno-cellular system. This helps us with our
ability to see moving images. This system is smaller in
the brains of dyslexic people. The brain has to quickly
interpret the different letters and words, which our
eyes see, this makes reading harder.
What makes dyslexia difficult to identify is its varied
nature. Some dyslexic children could have very good
short-term memory, while others seem to have
low-attention span or observational capabilities.
Directions like right and left could seem confusing to
some while not to the others. Some may have absolutely
no difficulty in maths while others struggle their way
through it. Therefore a proper assessment is essential
to help you identify if your child is dyslexic or not.
There are various tests available that can help identify
if your child is dyslexic. Screening tests are not a
test for dyslexia per se, but can help narrow down the
group of children who might have dyslexia. A
comprehensive test is a thorough test, which tests the
whole child on areas of spelling, drawing, maths etc.
Here the School Psychologist can administer these tests.
A remedial teacher is on who specializes in teaching
learning disables children. They emphasize on
multi-sensory methods, which is combining writing, sound
of words etc to help the child remember the words
Parents need to be warned that dyslexic children are not
unintelligent and it may not jeopardize their child’s
future. Albert Einstein can be an excellent example of
one who in spite of being dyslexic was a successful and
In conclusion, parents can greatly help ease the process
for their child by keeping in mind certain points
1. Love your child for what they are
and not because of how they perform at school
2. Parents should make it clear that
a child difficulty is not their fault
3. Remember their efforts in trying
to achieve success in reading, writing and maths
4. Do not do their homework for them
but check to see if it is done correctly
5. Help them to be organized
6. Encourage area in which the child
can experience success like creative activities, sports
and encourage hobbies and out of school activities.
10 points to help you make a timetable
1. While making a timetable you must make sure that you
add all the subjects equally and you are able to cover
all the chapters.
2. To start studying or getting in the mood of studying
you should preferably choose a subject that you really
3. Then studying two different subjects (chapters) in a
day, make sure you don’t choose two theoretical based
subjects or two language subjects together e.g. It would
be difficult to try and study Hindi and marathi in one
day or study science and history because both of these
subjects have great detail. A better option would be to
study history and English or Maths and geography or
Hindi and Maths etc:
4. On weekends, Rise early and plan more.
5. Remember to motivate yourself, reward yourself if
you have followed your timetable for a week.
6. Prioritizing you subjects is important. You should
concentrate on subjects that you find difficult to
7. Your timetable should be made more than two months
in advance, so you can complete more than two revisions.
8. when studying divide your time well, Study for an
hour take a 15minute break and then study another
chapter of another subject for another hour. E.g. In a
break you can go out of the room you are studying in,
drink a glass of water, or just shut your eyes and
9. Making notes, studying aloud helps in remembering
your studies better.
10. Make your timetable chart colorful and bold and
place it in a place where you see it everyday so that
you are motivated to study.
- Najma Godhrawala